On Tuesday, I started our journey on developing a positive self-esteem and asked you to write down 5-10 characteristics or qualities that you like about yourself. I asked you to read that list once a day to begin the process of saying a positive self-statement. The point of that activity was to help you acknowledge some of the many positive traits that you possess. Now you need to continue reading that list to yourself minimally once a day!! Remember, the trick to having good self-esteem is learning to replace negative self statements with positive ones and start believing in yourself.
Negative self statements are a way that we rob ourselves from attaining our goals, having high self-esteem and having confidence in our abilities and talents. Telling yourself something negative like “I can’t do this” or “it is impossible” simply gives you a negative message and creates feeling of anxiety, depression, or simply the feeling of giving up on your goal. Now some of these negative self statements we learned from childhood and we need to learn and practice on a daily basis changing that tune (pardon the expression…lol).
So, today, I am going to ask you to do a few things to start changing your negative thinking to positive thinking:
- First, read your list of 5-10 characteristics or qualities that you like about yourself daily.
- On a piece of paper, draw a line down the middle of the page. On the left side of the paper, write “Negative Self Statements.” On the right side, write “Positive Self Statements.”
- Under the column, “Negative Self Statements”, start to list (you can number them if you want) any negative statement that you tell yourself frequently. An example, “I can’t do this because I am not smart enough.”
- Then in the right column, labeled “Positive Self Statements”, I want you to change that negative thought to one that is positive and that you believe. Taking the negative statement that I gave in #3, a reframing of that statement to one that is positive is: “I can do this because I am motivated and have the ability to learn new things.”
- Write down as many statements as you can think of and then change them to one that is positive.
- Next, you need to practice saying them to yourself and catch yourself if you find yourself saying one of the negative self statements on your list.
By doing this activity daily, you will begin to see a change in how you think about yourself, how you view things in your life and may begin to feel motivated, inspired and able to achieve anything that you set your mind to. Be patient with yourself and know that you are on a journey to learn a new way to thinking.
Welcome to a new you!!! 🙂