I was sitting here having a cup of java and started thinking about how people define success for themselves. It is a subjective word when you think about it because you are the one who defines what is success for yourself. Success to one may be creating a work of art, cooking an amazing meal, winning a race, getting a good grade in a class, losing weight, starting a new business, getting a new car and so on. Of course, there are so many people or things that influence one’s definition of success including family, society and the media. Sometimes, a person’s definition of success has been defined for them and at some point in time, they realize the value in defining the meaning for themself.
On the journey to success, most people think that it is as simple as achieving a goal that they wanted. The dilemma that arises for many is if they do not achieve their goal they see it as a failure. Feelings of self-doubt, fear and second guessing creeps in and at that critical point, a person may give up on their goal. Oftentimes, the problem in that way of thinking is that you end up giving up on yourself and never learn that failure is a part of the process on your journey to success.
Now you may be thinking, “what….failure is part of the process???” Yes, that is what I am saying and trust me, I have failed at many a things on the road to something I wanted to achieve or I had defined in my mind as “success” but what I learned from those “failures” was key to dusting myself off and getting back on the horse (for lack of a better expression…lol).
The question then is how do you learn from your failures, charge forward in order to achieve your goal or become successful?
First, redefine the word failure for yourself. Instead of seeing it as a be all end all for something, learn to see each failure as a stepping-stone. The old phrase of one step forward and two steps back comes to mind as I write. The key is to then get back up, dust yourself off and start walking forward again. If you learn to see “failure” as part if the process on your journey to success, it will help you stay focused and move forward.
Second, create a vision board that includes your goals, dreams and your definition of success to you. Then in those moments when things aren’t going quite as you planned, take a look at your vision board and use it as a tool to motivate you to take the next step forward.
Third, surround yourself with positive, supportive people who will be encouraging to you in those moments of frustration. Having a positive person in your corner will help you and energize you to keep pursuing your dreams.
Lastly, make sure that you learn to think positively and catch yourself if you start to think negative. Remember, stinkin’ thinkin’ will only bring you down and cause self-doubt. So, learn to take any negative self-talk and learn to make it positive.
So, I hope that this motivates you to pursue your goals, your dreams and helps you move forward in achieving complete wellness!!!!